The Four Agreements
First I would like to apologize for not posting in so long. I guess that’s what happens when your world gets turned upside down by the Universe granting you your deepest desire of re-uniting your family (well – most of it anyway).
But I digress – this post is about something different. I am a work in progress. I am far from perfect but I strive every day to do my best to improve the human that I am. One of the ways I keep my sanity is by singing. I sing pretty much every where I go, even in crowded public places. Typically the response I get is either praise or people simply ignore me. Today for the first time in my life, my singing disturbed someone and they asked me to stop singing because they didn’t want to hear the song. I’ll admit – I was shocked and hurt. The song I was singing was a love song, not hurtful, mean, caustic or obtuse. Of course I stopped singing to comply with this person’s request, but as I stood there packed like a sardine on the public bus, my anxiety started increasing and before I knew it tears were rolling down my face. This is when the amazement began. My sister gave me the best advice I have heard in a long time. It’s called the four agreements and they are as follows:
1- Be impeccable with your words.
2- Don’t take anything personally.
3- Don’t make assumptions.
4- Always do your best.
I typically don’t struggle with the first agreement – unless my emotions are very high. I also work daily to adhere to number four. It’s those middle two which I seem to have the most difficulty with in my life, and which cause me the most problems.
My first lesson for today is to not assume – you know they say when you assume you make an ass out of you and me. I don’t know why this person didn’t want to hear the song I was singing and it is wrong of me to assume anything with regards to their reality.
My second lesson for today – and this one is a difficult because it’s something I do all the time – don’t take anything personally. The four agreements explain “Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be a victim of needless suffering.” What a powerful lesson that was for me.
Today I will continue to work on not taking anything personally and on not making assumptions. I will also strive to write more often as that is another way I keep myself sane, and if people don’t like what I write, they don’t have to read it. 🙂
Be well wordpress readers! Have a blessed day.